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Okay, so you’re kinky. Congrats! Somehow you’ve figured out that you like some weird stuff when it comes to sex. It doesn’t matter how you got here, it just matters that you’re here now!

Now that you know you’re know that you’re into kinky stuff, what are you supposed to do? Where do you go from here now that you have this new information about your sexuality? What do you need to know? What do you need to learn? What are the basics?

Well, I’ve totally got you covered, dear reader. I’ve made an easy to navigate list of some essential sites that you must familiarize yourself as a fetishist who’s fresh on the scene. Here are some sites that will teach you the basics of what you’re into, how to do it, and help you find people to do it with:


Fetlife is the essential dating site for people in the kink community. It really is like Facebook for Kinky people. You definitely need an account on this site regardless of what you’re into.

Fetlife will help you connect with your local community, find kindred spirits, and people to play with! If you do decide to throw some money at the site, you’ll also gain access to some of the best amateur kinky porn on the internet!

If you click any link off this list, let it be this one.

Kink has been making kinky porn since forever. They make some of the best and most authentic fetish porn online.

They have a ton of different sites under Kink, so there’s something for anyone. It doesn’t matter what you’re into (rope, leather, public sex, etc) or who you’re into (men, women, transpeople, etc), Kink has something for you.

This fictional map of the realms of human sexuality may help you really think about what you’re into.

This site allows you to drop pins onto regions of the map to indicate what you like, don’t like, or what you want to try! It may really help you figure out what you’re into if you’re new to this lifestyle!


Curious about how sexuality works? Need some tips on the basics of the D/s Lifestyle? What really is bondage? What positions can you do with a strap on? Need a refresher on male/female anatomy?

Check out Sexplanations on Youtube. This channel is run by Dr. Lindsey Doe, a clinical sexologist. She makes informational videos about human sexuality.

Watch some videos and get the sexual education you should have gotten in high school!

Again, when you’re new to all of this stuff, it may be hard to figure out what you’re into. There are also some more confusing words associated with BDSM like primal/prey and hedonist!

This site asks you questions and then shows what percentage you scored in a number of areas. It may help you figure out what you should categorize yourself as within the world of BDSM and kink!


When it comes to rope bondage, M0co is king. Sure, you can tie up your partner with some synthetic rope from the hardware store… but you can actually hurt them and it’s not what is traditionally used.

M0co is a rigger and is trained in Japanese bondage and handspans all the rope for sale on this site! This is where you should go to buy rope if you’re looking to get started!

Mr. S Leather

When it comes to Leather, there’s nothing better than Mr. S.

This legendary store is based in San Francisco and is even featured in some Kink pornos! Their online site is the best place to shop for leather goods with kinky purposes.


If you’re looking for other kinds of toys, look no further than Extreme Restraints. You’ll find a ton of leather, metal, and other kinds of bondage devices for sale online.


When it comes to body safe sexy toys you should look to SheVibe. They only sell sex toys that won’t leach chemicals into your body (because there’s not FDA regulation on sex toys)!

You can get crowd favorites here like the Hitatchi Magic Wand (both wired and wireless) and Bad Dragon toys!

Amazon… but not for toys, for books!

While I would not recommend buying toys off of Amazon – because only god knows where they’ve been and what they’re made of – this site is great for books!

You can find great guides for learning how to tie bondage, porn star novels, and tons of fantastic erotica!

Folsom Street Fair

You’ve got to know your kinky facts and basics! So you have to know about the Folsom Street Fair! FSF is the largest gathering of kinky people in America – only rivaled by a gathering in Germany. Read up on this legendary kink event on their website.

Top 3 Sites to Meet a Kinky Partner

Trying to meet and fuck someone kinky – especially when you’ve first discovered that you’re a kinkster – can be be a bit challenging.

Due to app store restrictions it’s hard to find a mobile app that’s explicitly for kinky people and a lot of fetish dating sites are super scammy!

So here are 3 sites to try to find a kinky partner that aren’t scammy and are easy to use!


When it comes to the kink community, Fetlife has essentially become the epicenter. Most people who’ve found kink have eventually found Fetlife whether that be through a partner or off a suggestion of someone in a fetish four.

Fetlife lives up to it’s name of being Facebook for kinky people. Think about it: you probably still have your Facebook account active even if you don’t use it particularly often. Why? Because it’s the only way you can connect with certain relatives and old friends from school. Plus almost every establishment, club, or bar uses Facebook events.

Fetlife is usually the only way you can contact kinky friends and acquaintances – especially if they’re private with their identity, which a lot of people are. Plus, Fetlife is one of the best and only ways to stay up to date on the events your local dungeon is hosting. Most dungeons and play spaces don’t have accounts on other sites because of the content they’re discussing!

On Fetlife you’ll find groups for certain Fetishes, groups of people within kink, or personal ads. You’ll also find a lot of location based groups that support a community of people within a certain age group (like next generation, or under thirties) and groups for vanilla topics!

Fetlife is pretty much a one-stop-shop for porn, socialization, hooking up, and finding your next kink event you want to attend.

If you a remotely serious about kink or exploring your freakier side, then I think you really need to sign up for Fetlife. Unlike a lot of niche dating apps and sites you’re not going to be charged unless you want premium content. Fetlife is totally usable on a free membership.

Connect with your local – and global – kink community with this stellar social media/porn/dating site hybrid.


For those of us on the move, Whiplr might be a better option. You’ll find a lot of people on this app who are looking for hookups.

If you’re looking to get together someone quickly then Whiplr might be more efficient. Because it’s location based and lists people in a grid by how close they are to you and by who’s online, you’ll be able to find someone near you in a pinch.

Unlike Fetlife which doesn’t have a mobile app, Whiplr is much better suited for mobile use. However, it will drain your battery and doesn’t have as wide as a user base.


When it comes to finding kinky people on mobile dating apps, xPost is definitely a little more easy to use and well designed. It’s much prettier and – like Fetlife – encourages people who are all sorts of kinky to sign up.

You’re going to find people who are looking to explore or dip their toe into the lifestyle, as well as people who are very experienced. Another great feature that this app has is that it allows you to sign up as a couple! So you and your partner can look for nudes and hookups around you

Top 3 Kinky Fuck Apps for 2019

If you ask anyone between the ages of 18-27 if they’ve ever tried a dating app before, most of them are going to say yes – and the other people are just lying. In 2018 we saw a lot of buzz around dating apps (even more than 2017), so it’s no surprise that 2019 is going to be yet another year of slamming clam for millions of people across the US.

The trends in the dating app world are rapidly changing, so it’s important that you know about the trends before they even happen. Come along with me, and we will check out the hottest upcoming dating apps of 2019.

  1. FuckPal

    FuckPal, in case you aren’t familiar, is a dating app created in 2018 that connects people who may have… seen them before. It’s a little complicated, so let me explain.

    Fuckpal is a location-based dating app (much like Tinder or Bumble) that matches people based on the ever so popular ‘like/dislike’ system. But here’s where it gets interesting; The app will actually give you a notification if you pass one of your matches on the street.

    Let’s say for example that you ‘swiped right’ on a stunning girl you saw in the app. The next morning you’re out getting coffee, and your phone starts buzzing in your pocket. It’s a happn notification letting you know that one of your matches is sitting in the same coffee shop.

    Next thing you know it’s 5 years later, and you two are happily married with a beautiful family, or maybe just a fuck buddy… OK so maybe I skipped a few steps there, but you get what I mean. The app is exciting as hell, and now that I think about it, it might be even more addicting than Tinder.

  2. Bumble

    Bumble. I mean, what more do I have to say? I remember when Bumble had representatives come to my school and hand out free pens in the library. I had never heard of it before, and it didn’t really look that promising when I downloaded it shortly afterward.

    But of course, I was wrong. In the past year, Bumble has made titanic moves in the dating-app game. Millions of users strong, Bumble is now in the top 3 most successful dating apps of all time. Why is it so popular though?

    It’s pretty simple. It’s exactly like Tinder aside from one specific feature that opened up a whole new world of possibilities for young lovers everywhere. When you match with a girl, you can’t message her. Only she can message you.

    It may seem simple, but it makes finding a kinky fuck a thousand times easier. You avoid wasting time on girls that never reply to messages, and it makes the guys feel more… wanted. Overall, it’s just a great app with incredible functionality and a flourishing user-base. Oh yeah, and it’s not going away any time soon.

  3. POF

    I don’t know if you’ve ever heard of POF before, but it’s not really a hook-up app. Well, it is, but it’s not supposed to be.

    The whole purpose of the app is for people to take a ‘chemistry test’ before the site finds people that would make for good conversation. But you see, when you take millions of horny people (of all ages) and set them up on a site that revolves around ‘conversation’… well, you can imagine what happens in those chat rooms.

    Most of the time your matches will ask you for you snapchat or some other form of communication – so hooking up isn’t hard. There are a lot of people on the app what are looking for a proper spouse, but there are a lot more just looking for a freak in the sheets.

    Go check it out and see for yourself, it’s a total trip.

Fetish dating 101: 9 sinful steps to dating kinky people

It doesn’t matter how you got here! But you’re here now and you’re trying to figure out the dating scene that surrounds kink and fetish.

Here are a few tips to dating kinky people that’ll help you on your way (thought the best way to learn is by trying or by taking official BDSM tests)!

1. Understand Poly

If you’re new to the kink community, you’re going to have to learn a little about polyamory. There’s a lot of different ways to do poly and it means a lot of different things to different people, but poly in a nut shell is the desire to maintain multiple romantic and sexual relationships.

You don’t have to be okay with being poly yourself, but you should understand it because a lot of people will have a primary partner (or a few) and still date around within the scene! Definitely read up on it more, but be conscious that poly is a thing!

2. Most people are really open!

A lot of people clam up when they first get into kink. What you’ll find is that a lot of people are very open and welcoming. You’re going to meet a lot of very accepting people within the community. So, get excited!

3. …Except when they’re not open at all

While most people are extremely open about fetish, there are some people who are forced to keep it on the downlow for a multitude of different reasons. These people will usually tell you, but make sure that if you run into one of these private people in a vanilla place, don’t out them as kinky!

4. Understand trauma and boundaries

A lot of people have trauma. And when you’re playing with ropes and handcuffs and incorporating aspects of humiliation into sex, those traumas might arise. So be aware of that in yourself and with partners.

And NEVER cross hard limits. Once boundaries are set they aren’t to be pushed unless explicitly said so by the person. Pushing limits is violating consent and that’s definitely not okay. Pushing limits is not Safe Sane or Consensual (SSC)!

5. Just because they’re into something doesn’t mean you have to be

Okay, so let’s say you’ve found a partner who is really into feet. Just because they’re into that doesn’t mean you have to be. Don’t let that turn you off from getting with someone. You don’t have to incorporate every single kink into every single sexual encounter!

6. Don’t be scared of the leather! Most people are really sweet!

A lot of people are intimidated by all the leather and the dark clothing. But you shouldn’t be! A lot of people in the community just look intimidating!

Some of the sweetest most understanding people are also the people who have a thousand tattoos and dress in the most intense way.

Just because someone looks like they can kick your ass, doesn’t mean they will (unless you ask them to politely).

7. Beware of hyper-masculine Dom types

These guys are usually really fucked up and violate consent all the time. Don’t get intoxicated by all the testosterone. Be wary.

8. Fetlife is almost a necessity

If you’re just starting out you’ll need to get on Fetlife! That was the best decision I ever made. Fetlife will help you connect with the community!

9. There are plenty of kinksters in the sea

Don’t get discouraged if something doesn’t work out and don’t hold on to a relationship for the sake of the sexual chemistry. There will be another person who will have the same kinks and will treat you infinitely better! Remember that you always come first!

The best BDSM sites on the internet


If you’re anything like me, you use the internet for less than chaste purposes. Come on, if you’re not watching porn or sexting on the internet then you are LYING.

Well now that you’ve accepted that you’re a sexual deviant just like the rest of us, set aside any linger Victorian values and let’s talk about bondage. Ah yes, Fifty Shades of Grey, Betty Page, and Rihanna. All of these things have one thing in common: whips and chains. Excited? You, me, and Rihanna both! I – like most of modern western society – am thoroughly obsessed with bondage now that it’s become super mainstream. Why hide your deepest desires when you can live them out? Here are my favorite BDSM sites online:

1.      Fetlife

This site is literally the god of all BDSM sites. It’s the Daddy of all the daddies out there. If you’re not on Fetlife can you really even call yourself kinky? Fetlife is the center for most internet based (and real life based) kink and fetish activity in not just the US but the world. Everyone uses Fetlife.

You can not only look for a suitable mate or play partner, but you can share videos, get advice, and perv some of the hottest somewhat amateur content on the internet.
To be completely honest, I wouldn’t blame you if you ditched this article now and went and signed up for an account right now. Please, go for it!


If you don’t watch porn on you must be so green to the fetish community it’s not even funny. This is basically where all the good is. Sure, you’ll have to pay to see full videos but those previews aren’t something to scoff at. Why watch a full length movie when you can watch the previews which is essentially the highlight reel?

But if you want to upgrade you should, I mean why not support the kinkier arts right?
But if you don’t, then you should really give this other site a try…


This site is such a great free porn site I’d say it rivals RedTube and PornHub alike. I’m obsessed. Plus, they have a ton of free bondage videos. A lot of the rougher ones are some serious german dungeon porn (and if you’re into that, good for you). However, they do have a ton of stuff that’s ripped straight from Kink.

While I know it’s unethical… it’s arguably just as hinky to tie someone up and beat them right?


About Me

Hi there, welcome to the Bondage Directory – your one stop shop to find the best BDSM and kink destinations on the internet!  And while directories have more or less gone out of style, we continue to curate the best BDSM and bondage links for your enjoyment.

You can all call me Candy (because I’m sweet, duh). The reason I didn’t want to use my real name is probably obvious by now, because this site is a little bit XXX rated, don’t you think? Well, my interests are varied and dirty. Oops.

I mean, you probably share some of my interests otherwise you wouldn’t be using this site now would you? Well, maybe you shouldn’t use your first name either. It’s fun to pretend to be someone else sometimes don’t you think?

Well, if you’re into kink or bondage or roleplay you probably agree with me. If you’re on here for another reason, I hope this blog helps satisfy your curiosity or your human sexuality research paper or whatever else you’re on here for!

On here you’ll find a lot of things kink and sex related, so for your sake I hope you have an open mind. You can also totally submit your own stories if you want to! I’d love to hear about your latest sexy adventures.

Well, I hope you enjoy our directory! Try not to blush too hard while reading! 😉